As a professional speaker and corporate trainer, I’m often mistaken for one of those rare “naturally confident” people. However, like most of the world, I’ve had to work at it. Contrary to what you might believe, confidence and self-esteem are rarely natural traits. Instead, they are skills that can be learned through practice.
The dirty little secret that no one talks about is this: research shows that nearly 100% of mentally healthy people will struggle with self-confidence to one degree or another. In fact, some research even suggests that the people who don’t ever worry about what others are thinking of them actually land somewhere on the spectrum of sociopathic or even psychopathic. If you are a compassionate, empathetic and conscientious individual, you will likely experience times when you lack confidence.
Most of us are conscious of (and concerned with) how others view us—and for good reason, especially in the workplace. The perceptions others have of us can impact how they treat us and the opportunities they afford us. Still, we don’t want to place too much weight on the opinions of others. We want to be confident in who we are, what we do and how we do it, regardless of what others think. Interestingly, the more confident we are, the higher regard people tend to have for us.
So, how do we balance all of this? How do we manage the little voice in our heads that tells us we’re not good enough and we don’t measure up? How do we pay attention to our reputation without allowing the opinions of others to define us? How do we create the kind of confidence that is real and lasting?
In this month’s webinar, I’ll answer all of these questions and more. If you’ve ever felt like some kind of imposter, or worried that everyone else knows something you don’t, or stayed awake at night feeling inferior and anxious about your professional future, this session is for you.[Read more…] about Building Authentic Self-Confidence